Saturday, February 7, 2009

Sibling Visit

(S) brothers foster parents and I brought all the kids to a McDonalds this morning so that they could visit with each other. I know they were excited to see each other. There is no doubt in my mind that all the children love each other. They played well together in the playplace and (S) ran around for at least an hour straight.

It seems at though one of the boys foster parents is leaning towards adopting him. None of the other parents are interested in adoption. One of them told about their first foster child and what it was like when he left. I guess everyone has to go through that first one once and apparently we will be no different. I will consider we have made our final decision when we actually tell (S) case worker what we are going to do. Using that definition, we still haven't made a decision. I would say the chances that we do adopt (S) are less than 10% at this point.

I did find out a little about what happened when the visits came to a stop. One of the foster parents said that mom called him that day and wanted to know how her son was. She told him she was hiding at a friends house. She didn't say what she was hiding from or why she was hiding. He said she sounded like she had lost it. Apparently there was more to the story than that but he didn't know any more. It did however seem to indicate the instability of the family.

When we left the McDonalds (S) fell asleep briefly in the car. It was brief because we had to go into the store and I woke her up. While we were in the store I got a call from (K). She had some friends who live across the street from (S) mom and dad. They told her that last night the house was crawling with police officers. They didn't know why. It just speaks to more instability and more likelihodd that the TPR will occur sooner rather than later.

One of (S) brothers who was old enough to know what was going on told his foster parent that he missed his parents, but that not living with them was no big deal as they really hadn't lovfed with them all that much anyway. Bewtween the last 14 months in foster care and time spend with their grandparents and uncle (an uncle not unlike Uncle Ernie in Tommy) they hadn't really lived with their parents all that much anyway. He also said he would rather live with his current foster parent. Luckily, he is the one that is most likely to adopt.

All in all it was an interesting day for me, but a good day for (S). She does so love playing with her brothers. She is the yougest and they treat her like a princess.


  1. what is the age difference between them...

    I am glad that S had a great time... Hopefully she will stay close....

  2. It is nice to keep the children visiting.
    So important to them.

  3. They are all about 2 years apart.....3,5,7,9,11,13 or there abouts.

  4. What a great day for S and her brothers!! I bet she slept soundly. :o)