Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Case Worker Visit

Today was the monthly visit from the CW. We were amazed to hear that she hasn't heard a word from Bio mom and dad since the last court date. Bio-dad does have a new lawyer so everything should be all set for the TPR hearing tot ake place the week of April 6th. We will have to be in court for that. They expect the hearing to last 3-4 days so that week will probably be shot and emotional for all involved. The CW anticipates that there will be a decision to terminate about 3 weeks after that.

She does expect an appeal, but at that point she will begin getting to work on having some sort of permanency. In other words, time to make a decision. It was interesting though (K) was here during the visit and she said she would adopt (S) if we didn't. Now as you know, she is getting married in June so I am not sure it would be the right thing to get involved in, but I am not going to tell them what to do. I simply told her that if she wanted to, her and her fiance needed to get started taking the classes and getting the paperwork done.

The CW said our trip would be a good opportunity for us to really see whether or not we wanted to adopt. We really have no intention of doing that at this point, so I don't think that will happen, but I guess you never know. She says she has had lots of people our age adopt foster children. I think we probably would have no problem if (S) was about 10 years older and everything else remained the same, but at age 3, it would mean a commitment to an age well above the normal.

I'm surprised I said that. If anyone knows what normal is, please let me know. I have never figured that one out. Just as soon as I think someone is normal, they do something I can't believe, I even dare to think I am normal on occasion, but then DW sets me straight.

The visit ended and the CW will be back in just 2 weeks so she can get in her March visit before we go away. We are so looking forward to this trip. It should make for some good posts here as we proceed by car through 15 different states. The details are just about worked out and the reservations are made. I can't wait!

1 comment:

  1. Our oldest child is 30 and our youngest is 4. We will probably have another one. We know we will still be parenting when we are well into our 60s. I worried about it a lot at first, but now I know that God intended me to be Ella's mom and she will have the benefits (there are many) of older parents. There are many benefits to younger parents as well, it is just different.