Friday, February 27, 2009

The Physics of Foster Care.

There are certain "truths" in the universe that can not be changed. If you throw a coin off of a building, it will fall to the ground. If you push a stroller, it will go in the direction you push it. If you fill a container with water, the water will stay level no matter what slope the container is on. All of these truths are physics. I am coming to the realization that foster care has certain physics associated with it as well.

Almost as sure as the sun is going to rise tomorrow, there will be children put into foster care today. Some of the kids will be born to drug addicted parents who only want to take care of getting themselves drugs. Some of the kids will be abused sexually, physically, or emotionally. Some of the kids will unfortunately have parents pass away or become too sick to care for them. And lastly, some of the kids will just have parents who are complete and total IDIOTS! (S) falls in that category. Nothing can change any of that, it is physics.

There are foster parents who truly care about the children they are fostering and many hope to adopt the children some day. Unfortunately there is a small minority of foster parents who really don't care about the children and treat them horribly. Some are just in it to take the money from the state for themselves and provide nothing for the children. It has been this way for years, and apparently nothing will ever change that either. It is physics.

There are social workers at the county/state offices that are overworked, underpaid, and while when they first took their job they felt good about what they were doing to help the children and many still do, a number of them have become very cynical and no longer really care about the children. They just want to get through the day as easy as possible because there just isn't enough time in the day to do everything that is expected of them. I don't think any of these things will change either. It is physics

I like to think that eventually everything will change. That there will be fewer parents who are unable to care for their children. That all foster parents will be fostering just to help out the children, and that social workers will not be overworked and underpaid, but given a fair days pay for doing a good job helping out the children that need their help. Unfortunately, none of that will ever happen. Its physics, and you can't change physics.

1 comment:

  1. These are the kinds of things I think about too. I just hope that as long as kids have to go into Foster Care, there will be caring, committed Foster Parents such as yourselves.