Yesterday we got an e-mail from Shy's school teacher. It seems that she was not listening to what the teacher was telling her during math class and as a result, the teacher took 5 minutes of recess away from Shy.
When we asked her about it, she did not want to talk about it at all and got quite irate about it.
We explained that that behavior was not acceptable and it was important that she listened to her teacher. She said she didn't care about recess and when we told her no TV after dinner, she said she didn't care about that either. She got quite angry and started yelling at us. We know she was more upset with her self than with us, so we just kind of let that part of it go.
She just didn't want to talk about it. She knew we were upset with her, and I think that was enough. So after dinner we just let her read and finish up her homework and then it was off to bed.
When DW was putting her into bed, she said she was sorry that she didn't behave well in class, and that she was also sorry for the way she acted about it at home. She was very loving.
These are the times when we believe that she is still testing us. I think she wants to see if we will still love her no matter what she does. Of course the answer is yes. The only thing I worry about is how far she will go to see if we still love her. Of course our love for her will never waiver, but we don't want her to do anything in the future that is going to require more than a simple apology to make things a little better. The last thing we want is for her to be labelled as a trouble maker by the teachers or the school.
And I know most of you already know this, but we do still lover he and always will. She is an absolutely wonderful and beautiful little girl, and nothing she does could ever change that.
The challenge is getting her to believe that!