Shy is going through a stage where she is very clingy. She has gone through these stages the whole time she has been with us. It is certainly understandable, given her past. It does seem as though there is more and more time in between the times she is clingy, and they certainly don't seem to last as long as they once did.
today, for the second time in less than a week, she did not want me to go to work in the morning. Now I leave the house relatively early and usually she is still fast asleep. But for the last week or so, she has been waking up more and on two occasions was awake when I was leaving for work.
On both of those occasions, she did not want me to go to work. She gives me a hug, and then just won't let go. I ask her to let me go and she says "No, I don't want you to go to work". After I give assurances that I will see her after school, she is OK and lets go off the hug and off I go to work.
Now the good side of all of this is that the hugs are really good ones. She holds on tight and that part of it I enjoy. I certainly understand that there was a time when the people she loved were taken away from her, and even though she was just over the age of 2, it is still in there.
I understand it
I do my best to make sure she understands I will be back.
I enjoy the hugs.
I hope it ends soon, because I know the reason she feels this way, and I don't want her to ever feel that we will be leaving her. I keep telling her we are her "forever family". I know it and believe it to my inner core. I long for the day when Shyanne will feel that way as well.