The last time (S) met with any members of her family was last August. Over 8 months ago. At that time, the visit which included her Bio-parents caused her great distress and sent her backwards in development.
Tomorrow there will be the first sibling visit since that time. This was set up by the CW and I am sure it was something that was "ordered" by the court during the hearing a couple of weeks ago. We have talked with the therapist that (S) sees and she has been supportive of a visit, but I have to tell you, I am certainly worried about it.
It is not our intent to keep (S) away from her siblings either now or after adoption. They will always be a part of each other's life as all the adoptive parents are in agreement on that. I am just not sure that this is the right time. Then again, when would be the right time? I suppose the longer it gets put off, the worse it will be. My fear is that (S) will think this is a sign she is going back to her "other" family and that is something I am sure would cause her great distress. Something she certainly doesn't need at this point in her development.
I will let you know how it goes, but in the meantime, I will remain worried.