We are back to nightly visits......And they aren't from the sandman. Shyanne is back to coming into our bedroom every night. Most nights she climbs into bed with us at some point after we are both asleep and makes our sleep miserable. Unfortunately, we don't know why our sleep is miserable until we wake up and see her there.
We are unsure of what has started this again. We thought we had overcome this previously. Last night she came out after we had put her to bed and she said she was scared. She was unable to relate anything scary to us, and eventually, after promising to tuck her into her bed for the third time, she went back to sleep. Then when we woke up this morning, there she was.
We have tried to give her all kinds of ways to keep herself in her own room and to fall back asleep in there after she wakes up, but to no avail. We have kept her light on. We have kept the hall light on. We have placed books by her bed so she can read if she wakes up. It does not matter. She still wants to be with us, in our room, and in our bed.
It isn't working for us. There is only one sure way to keep her out of our bed, and that would be to close and lock our bedroom door. That is not something that we consider to be safe, and therefore would not be an option. Her therapist has talked to her about this, but there still hasn't been a real answer. This leads us to the only possible reason for her coming into our bedroom at night.......
I don't know.
Maybe she just feels more comfortable being with us at night then being alone. That is fine, but I can assure you we don't feel more comfortable with her in our bed.
Maybe she is afraid we won't be there when she wakes up. We tell her there is nothing to worry about there and that we are indeed her "forever" family.
Maybe she is truly afraid of something in the house or about her room that scares her. If she is, she isn't telling us and I wish she would so we could correct it.
Anyone out there have any ideas?