Tuesday, September 8, 2009

The Latest Poop

OK, so it has been a couple of weeks. I was out of town all last week on business.

I kept thinking each day something new was going to happen and yet it hasn't. Today we went to the courthouse and the new judge was there to discuss the case. She said the old judge may return to hear the case. I guess he is "active" retired. I am not sure what that means, but I am hoping that the new judge just hears the whole thing. A fresh look at all the evidence and what is and has been going on might work out best for all concerned.

In the meantime, the lawyers are going to get together in a couple of weeks to talk and we are looking at a November or December hearing that will last 3 to 4 days. Then there will be a 4 to 6 week time before any decision is rendered. Sooooooooooo we will be here in limbo until sometime after the New Year. At least (S) is unaware of her "limbo status". Of course one of the lawyers said that there was a warrant out for dad's arrest (not sure why) and according to the sw, mom and dad filed PPOs against each other but are living around the corner from each other. I could live to be 100 and I will never figure this out so I guess I will just report it and not waster energy trying to figure it out.

Mom will be having a meeting with (S)s therapist this week to discuss how visits with her may be handled. There has not been any progress made on this front, and I am quite happy about that. After the last visit with mom (S) took a giant step backwards and she is doing so well now.

Speaking of doing well.....(S) started pre-school last week. She really likes it. She seems to do real well. She is clingy in the morning when we drop her off, but it isn't anything that unusual. She has been dry and clean every day for a while now. She still wears a diaper at night, but she is making progress there too. We still can't get her to spend an entire night in her own bedroom. She hasn't done that since the last visit with mom over a month ago. She is turning into a terror at times. I think she is just testing the limits like any other child to see how far she can go. It can be very frustrating for us at times though.

Obviously, this saga will continue to continue or keep on keeping on, or whatever you want to call it. At least the plot isn't thickening....I think......


  1. Please tell me I read this wrong !!! Is it really possible that the old judge, who thinks he knows everything and doesn't listen to the experts, could be hearing this case again? Can we do anything to make sure he's NOT included?

  2. You read correctly, and no, there is nothing we can do about it. I am obviously hoping we don't get the moronic magistrate for this again.

  3. Ok, I have a friend who is a foster parent. They hired a lawyer and got full custody of their foster child. They are no longer considered foster children, they put the baby on their medical insurance, and visitation is at their discrection. They are pursuing adoption now and had the support of the GAL and social workers. I asked my social worker if we could apply for custody for Lovebug, she said yes we could. I think the downfall is that custody can be reversed by a judge at any time. I'm not sure. We were advised to wait right now, and see if Lovebug's mom will straighten up. But in your case, it has gone on so long you can easily prove that you are the most stable family. Your child's therapist could testify for you also.