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I know I am going to rant and ramble, but I can't help myself. I am getting fed up.
I drive by the Mystery Mansion every day on my way to and from work. I am constantly amazed with the number of people that are coming and going from that establishment.
What does it say about our society that so many people are requiring services from our Health and Human Services offices. The office in my community is certainly not any different then others across the state or the country.
I asked DW tonight. What do these people ((S)s parents and others) do? They have no job. They now have no children at home. They are not getting any social services from DHHS. All they do is collect whatever funds they can get from the state and spend those funds as they see fit. Certainly not a bad gig if you can get it, but why don't these people have any ambition?
Bio mom and dad have not even called DHHS to check and see how there children are. It seems to me that the kids are just a tool to get them more money. We need to stop paying these idiots to have babies. The more they have, the more money the state decides to give them in welfare, food stamps etc. What these people need is a serious stimulus right in the backside.
We keep bailing them out of their problems as well. they end up in jail and we give them more services to try to help them to become part of and act like the mainstream society, not like a bunch of Wall Street CEOs and Bankers. I am getting sick and tired of the whole thing. It certainly won't keep me from being a foster parent. I am enjoying that too much. But something is going to break at some point and it may be a big part of what we are seeing in this economy.
When I was a kid there was no such thing as "welfare". People were on "assistance" and it meant just that. Assistance until they were able to take care of themselves. Now we have created a whole generation/group of people who think the American Dream is getting free healthcare, food stamps and some spending money as well as housing assistance and they just sit around breeding.
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Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009
A Mother's Love
What a weekend this has been. On Friday I spoke with (S) case worker and she said nothing to me about a visitation for (S) with her parents. (S) and I went out and ran some errands and went to "Donalfries" (McDonalds) for lunch. We got home around around 2:30 and there is a message from the caseworker asking if (S) can visit with her family from 1-4. There were also 2 messages from (S) mom wanting to know why she wasn't there.
I called her mom and told her what had happened, and she said that (S) was supposed to be there next week on Monday Wednesday and Friday from 10am to 3pm. Still no word from the caseworker. So Saturday is a normal visitation so we were hopeful that the reunification worker would be there so we could talk with her. Unfortunately she wasn't. My lovely wife called her later in the day to find out what was going on. She confirmed that if it can be worked out that those are correct times for a visit for just (S) with none of her siblings. She is the youngest and probably has no memory of living with mom and dad so they want her to spend a lot of time alone with mom before she goes back to live with them.
My head wants to be as helpful as possible, but I think my heart is saying "if they want something let them take care of it. It is not your responsibility." The bottom line is my heart doesn't want her to leave even though I know it is best for her. I have no doubt that we can provide more materially for (S), but at the end of the day, there is no love like a mother's love and (S) needs to have that if at all possible. I just can't get away from the thought of her not being here. We are trying to plan a long road trip for after she is gone to kind of keep our mind off things, but I don't know if that will work.
Today I took (S) sledding in the front yard. We both had a blast, but we couldn't do it very long because the wind chills were below zero. I have to be in Florida from Monday through Wednesday so I promised her when I got back we would sled some more.
I just can't get my mind off her leaving. What do all of you good people out there recommend for a "tourist" in Ohio, Indianna, Tennessee, Alabama, Arkansas, Oklahoma, New York, Pennsylvania, Missouri, and Illinois. That is where we are planning to go on our "planning" roadtrip. We hope it becomes a reality, and we hope it can be fun and get our minds off (S) but I know it won't work for long periods, but maybe a little at a time. We have to have something to do.
We plan on giving the case worker our cell phone number in case things don't work out and (S) needs to come back. I hate to have those thoughts, but I just can't help it. Like I said before, my head wants this to work for (S) and my heart wants to be selfish and keep her for ourselves.
Well, I am going to go play with (S) before she goes to bed. Everyone have a nice day.
I called her mom and told her what had happened, and she said that (S) was supposed to be there next week on Monday Wednesday and Friday from 10am to 3pm. Still no word from the caseworker. So Saturday is a normal visitation so we were hopeful that the reunification worker would be there so we could talk with her. Unfortunately she wasn't. My lovely wife called her later in the day to find out what was going on. She confirmed that if it can be worked out that those are correct times for a visit for just (S) with none of her siblings. She is the youngest and probably has no memory of living with mom and dad so they want her to spend a lot of time alone with mom before she goes back to live with them.
My head wants to be as helpful as possible, but I think my heart is saying "if they want something let them take care of it. It is not your responsibility." The bottom line is my heart doesn't want her to leave even though I know it is best for her. I have no doubt that we can provide more materially for (S), but at the end of the day, there is no love like a mother's love and (S) needs to have that if at all possible. I just can't get away from the thought of her not being here. We are trying to plan a long road trip for after she is gone to kind of keep our mind off things, but I don't know if that will work.
Today I took (S) sledding in the front yard. We both had a blast, but we couldn't do it very long because the wind chills were below zero. I have to be in Florida from Monday through Wednesday so I promised her when I got back we would sled some more.
I just can't get my mind off her leaving. What do all of you good people out there recommend for a "tourist" in Ohio, Indianna, Tennessee, Alabama, Arkansas, Oklahoma, New York, Pennsylvania, Missouri, and Illinois. That is where we are planning to go on our "planning" roadtrip. We hope it becomes a reality, and we hope it can be fun and get our minds off (S) but I know it won't work for long periods, but maybe a little at a time. We have to have something to do.
We plan on giving the case worker our cell phone number in case things don't work out and (S) needs to come back. I hate to have those thoughts, but I just can't help it. Like I said before, my head wants this to work for (S) and my heart wants to be selfish and keep her for ourselves.
Well, I am going to go play with (S) before she goes to bed. Everyone have a nice day.
Friday, December 12, 2008
I have never blogged before, but it seems like a good thing to do now. I am not sure what this will evolve into, but we shall see as we move along.
My wife and I have been foster parents for exactly one year. Our current foster daughter came to us in December 2007. It seems as though she is close to being back with her birth family. She currently has 4 brothers who are also in foster care. We will certainly miss her when she gos, but we know it is probably best in the long run.......if it works. That is our biggest concern. If it doesnt work and she is taken out again, that will stink.
She is only 3 years old and really has no understanding of what has been going on. We were looking at pictures with her yesterday and when we got to a picture of her family and I asked her who they were she responded with "those are my friends". She refers to her paents home as my mommy and daddy's home and she calls our home her home.
Since she is our first foster child, we are wondering how it will all work out in the end. We have a meeting on Monday which should give us more information as to how the reunification process will proceed. I think we are both very anxious. We certainyl have grown to love her over the last year, and know we will miss her when she is gone.
My wife and I have been foster parents for exactly one year. Our current foster daughter came to us in December 2007. It seems as though she is close to being back with her birth family. She currently has 4 brothers who are also in foster care. We will certainly miss her when she gos, but we know it is probably best in the long run.......if it works. That is our biggest concern. If it doesnt work and she is taken out again, that will stink.
She is only 3 years old and really has no understanding of what has been going on. We were looking at pictures with her yesterday and when we got to a picture of her family and I asked her who they were she responded with "those are my friends". She refers to her paents home as my mommy and daddy's home and she calls our home her home.
Since she is our first foster child, we are wondering how it will all work out in the end. We have a meeting on Monday which should give us more information as to how the reunification process will proceed. I think we are both very anxious. We certainyl have grown to love her over the last year, and know we will miss her when she is gone.
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