tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5657401083028342251.post4784116911964335357..comments2023-06-21T04:48:16.866-04:00Comments on Life Goes On and On and On: Stability Pleasecloudmasterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16880857751492052933noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5657401083028342251.post-78431827588600174742009-12-01T14:46:48.677-05:002009-12-01T14:46:48.677-05:00I do believe in the anniversary but I also think i...I do believe in the anniversary but I also think in general holidays seems to be hard for our kids, not sure if its the change in structure or what, but keeping it low key sometimes helps.ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05342174649805200006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5657401083028342251.post-30719416252044851322009-11-30T22:27:17.466-05:002009-11-30T22:27:17.466-05:00We just adopted a sibling group. And right before...We just adopted a sibling group. And right before the adoption took place our oldest son age 5 at the time was concerned with what took place on adoption day. I think he remembered the police and could not understand what was going to happen. Once the day was over..he wanted to go back to adoption day. Before our court date he asked lots of questions with a concerned look on his face. He also acted up at school..not listening. After court he went back to normal. It is hard to know what is on our little ones minds, they have suffered such loss at such and early age. We have had our kids for almost 2 years and it surprises me what they still remember before being removed and placed in foster care. I always just let them talk and acknowledge their feelings.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07661309994995951274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5657401083028342251.post-28425433114987953622009-11-30T21:11:51.820-05:002009-11-30T21:11:51.820-05:00You should check out Lisa's blog at http://lis...You should check out Lisa's blog at http://lisajordanpuddin.blogspot.com/ - she's written a lot about traumaversaries. I've learned a lot from her.Ellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16525364919472346468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5657401083028342251.post-10534088499168975512009-11-30T20:52:36.267-05:002009-11-30T20:52:36.267-05:00Ohhh, that broke my heart. You have to totally th...Ohhh, that broke my heart. You have to totally think outside the box with our kiddos, huh? It's so hard to weed out the "normal naughty, being a kid stuff" and the "suffering from hurt and loss" that swirls inside them. It sure takes a lot of extra patience. Poor little angel.<br /><br />The stability and love you provide will prevail. It's not a matter of if but when. :o)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18008564171806344061noreply@blogger.com